Knowing you were the one hurt gives them some comfort in knowing you were content in a relationship and not always wanting more than the other person had to offer and that your stable and really wanted a prior relationship to be a life-long success. Most people dread the thought that they will be having to compete with an ex. Everyone usually wants to know they are not about to get involved with someone with a bad past like a drug addiction, alcohol-abuse or some type of ailment that prevents them from working and doing day to day activities.
You spend a lot of time and energy wondering what the other person thinks of you. Rationale: Does s/he have grit (which is important for success)? Is s/he going to be good at repairing your bond after you’ve had an argument? Do you know when you’re feeling hurt, lonely, sad, ashamed/embarrassed etc? If someone was securely attached to their primary caregiver, they’re more likely to have a secure attachment style now (i.e., they’re not too needy or too distant). What are some examples of when you’ve persisted and succeeded at a long term goal? Is your pot smoking/binge drinking just a being young thing for you or can you imagine wanting to do it your whole life? Rationale: When you fight, is s/he going to fight nice?A decade ago, it was still considered sort of creepy if you admitted to meeting someone online. People all over the world are striking up friendships and romances with people they meet online on facebook, in chat rooms or game forums, and via email and apps.In many people’s minds, meeting on a dating site or via email was an automatic strike against your chances of forging a serious, long-term relationship. Meeting online is now one of the most common ways to find a partner.After all, we only have one life to live and at the age of 59, it’s usually hard to even find someone who doesn’t have health problems, excess baggage of some sort or so set in their ways you can not deal with emotionally trying to re-build a broken life with, completely from scratch again.