(I feel this is one of those things where telling her would be an easy way for me to feel better, but would end up doing more harm than good in the end.) –Jason Jason, Your radar is right on the money.You’re considered honest and trustworthy by your girlfriend.I feel bad about it every time I think about and I feel even worse every time the girl I’m dating brings up the fact of how she can trust me and how she loves how honest I am with her.
What makes this harder to navigate is the fact that people interpret social relationships so differently.
“I’ve been dating a great guy for five months, but I still text back and forth with my ex-boyfriend. ” “There’s this girl at the gym who flirts with me and, yes, sometimes it gets a little risqué.
I’m sure my girlfriend wouldn’t be thrilled, but it’s just harmless banter. ” “He doesn’t know I’m having dinner with someone else this weekend, but it shouldn’t matter since we’ve never exactly said we’re exclusive. ” Maybe you’ve heard statements like these—either from a friend or from yourself. After all, dating relationships are in a constant state of flux.
A helpful reality check is to turn the situation around and determine if you would get upset if your beloved behaved the same way. Caution: even the most self-aware individuals sometimes deceive themselves about their true motivations.
If you have a friendship with an opposite-sex co-worker that’s gotten a little too cozy, ask yourself if you’d want your partner to have that kind of workplace relationship. Be honest with yourself in order to be honest with your partner.
Interesting…The ugly truth of the talking stage is that it sucks. The sad thing about this stage is that's an okay thing to do.