So being attracted to your best friend’s BF doesn’t make you evil — or even a bad friend.But there’s definitely a right way and a wrong way to handle the situation. First, how important is your relationship with your best friend? Being attracted to your best friend’s boyfriend is definitely in the Top 10 Trickiest Life Situations list.After all, you and your friend get along really well, and she and her boyfriend get along really well, so by the transitive property of romance, you and the boyfriend probably get along really well, too.It’s like ‘When Harry Met Sally’, but in real life – you were just friends with someone for years and years, you knew all their unsavoury habits, you wished you could fancy them but you never did – until one day, you suddenly do, and by some miracle, they like you too.So you’ve started dating your best friend, and it’s weird, wonderful and definitely takes some getting used to. You (hopefully) don’t need to have the ‘are we boyfriend and girlfriend? Things progress pretty quickly You’ve been best friends for ten years, so that’s basically like dating for ten years, right? Vanessa and her ex, Bryce (I'm changing all the names in this saga, btw), had dated for almost two years, but broke up this spring because he "needed space to find his own happiness."Vanessa was heartbroken, but gradually--thanks to a big career boost and the support of her awesome friends, natch--things were looking up.Cut to one week ago: Vanessa's best friend, Tara, called.
If your feelings stem more from your problems with relationships and/or confidence, counselling may be of benefit If you have real concerns that won’t go away are you able to speak to them individually or together?
That’s not to criticise your reaction or suggest it’s unreasonable for you to feel this way.
Just to encourage you to think about why this fills you with dread rather than it being a cause for celebration?
Plus, you guys are constantly trading witty banter, and he gives you these looks like he’s Kanye and you’re Kim… It’s actually pretty understandable why you might become attracted to your best friend’s other half.
That’s why we’ve talked to the experts to determine exactly how you should proceed — because handling this the wrong way could make your friendship disappear faster than Britney Spears’s hair circa 2007.
My best friend has recently started dating my brother.