As the title suggests, the researchers were interested in exploring whether our motivation for liking something might be separate from our motivation to want or desire it—and if these motivations were separate, could they sometimes be in conflict with each other?To test these questions, the researchers designed two experiments that "jilted" some participants in various ways.
Our ability to feel romantic love develops during adolescence.
Previously, I wrote here on research about when you should play "hard to get" in relationships.
That research also found an interesting distinction between behaviors that created "liking" and those that increased "desire" (Dai, Dong, & Jia, 2014).
It’s those differences that make life more interesting, as our lover opens up a whole new way of seeing or understanding the world.
Enjoy what others have to offer rather than trying to change them to fit your own template of how life and love should be. Expecting someone to be everything you need and everything you are not is a recipe for disaster.
We've loved (and been loved by) parents, brothers, sisters, friends, even pets. It's an intense, new feeling unlike any of these other ways of loving. When people feel close to others they are happier and even healthier.