Dating guy with kid

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You take one look at him and become excited — think this just might be your lucky day.

Before the conversation ends, he asks for your name and number so the two of you can continue talking over the phone.

Wasn’t I the same person who vowed to never date a man with a child? There are other men who are single, childless and worth getting to know. I was up for the challenge, and decided to give it shot.

Alas, I admit, those were my exact words, but those words were also spoken by a much younger and not so much wiser version of myself. Obviously, there are several issues to deal with when someone has a child. Do you think you’ll get jealous when you have to share him, and can’t throw a tantrum because you’ll ‘look bad’ for being jealous of a child? trying to pacify the mother so his relationship with his child isn’t affected, and keeping his ‘woman’ comfortable.

I got her a dozen roses and a box of her favorite chocolates.” I replied, “That’s nice.” My friend responded, “What does it matter? Wouldn’t YOU want to spend as much time with your dad as you could if he wasn’t living in your house anymore? Understand when your boyfriend wants to spend time with his kids without you.

She’ll still hate me.” Dating someone with kids can be really difficult. It doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you or want to be with you. If you do that, when he IS with you, he will love you so much more.

Just as soon as you thought your prayers have finally been answered, he tells you he'll call you once he drops off the kids..his baby momma's house. So what's a woman to do when she meets a single dad?

Well, for starters, it's certainly not the end of the world.

Prior to our meeting, I had mentioned that I had some news to share.I have learnt through maturity and life’s little lessons, that limiting yourself or options because of the checklist of the perfect man or ideal relationship you have etched in your mind doesn’t actually prove to be realistic. Yes the other woman; the ex who will always be present in both of your lives. Will your plans get rescheduled at the last minute, because something came up with the child or because of a situation with the other parent? Can your significant other manage any possible drama? And let’s be real, what about feeling secure about your relationship when you see him with her and their child, looking like a happy family unit? Still, it was a great relief to have taken that step. another thing with dating someone who has a child is this…But while it isn’t the ideal situation for some women, is dating a guy with a child really all that bad? It very well depends on the man, and how serious he is about getting into a committed relationship. When my guy mentioned that he had a child, I admit that the fear factor did set in. Having to deal with the ‘chile mudda’ may not be one’s cup of tea, but this is one of the things you may have to do while you’re dating your guy. something even more special is added to the relationship, as the guy would have to trust you to take such a big step in introducing you to his prized possession, and it’s often a good sign that he takes you seriously.Ultimately, failure to put their partner first was a sign these guys were not ready for a serious relationship, or at least not with those particular women, and that is totally normal.But it’s not cool to pay lip service to intentions of growing a serious, long-term relationship and from the onset demote your lover to second-rank — even before you message her on Maybe you’re thinking, ‘Hey, it’s OK; he only has them every other weekend, so basically I can forget his ex exists.’ I want to hug you and pat your head.

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