"Until I found Cancer Dating Service, I was unusually shy about dating.
Ya, cancer can have that effect :) But a few days in, I received a message from a man who was caring, nice, & so funny.
I told him I used to be shier than I am now, that I haven’t ever worked in an environment conducive to meeting single men, and then I put it all out there, the single most pertinent reason for my absence from the dating scene: I’m a two-time cancer survivor.
I felt as though I would be lying if I didn’t mention this to him, because, after all, I’ve been dealing with leukemia in some form or another for the past five years.
Viele glückliche Paare haben schon ihre Geschichten mit uns geteilt.
Von Liebe auf den ersten Blick bis zu den niedlichsten NEU.
They often want to find someone with whom to share their life—and this is a real challenge.
There are times when I am tempted to start a matchmaking service for the men and women, both gay and straight, who tell me how lonely they are and how they long for someone to share their life with. I often hear stories that describe how difficult it is to dip an older toe into the world of dating in 2015; the world is so different from the 1950s and 1960s when last they were single.
That would not be ethical of course—but I bet I would be successful in pairing some of them up . Dating these days seems to start with an online membership to one of the many dating websites out there.
And number 3: You need to talk about expectations about a physical relationship sooner rather than later.
However, I have a tough time relating to nonsurvivors in a dating situation. I wish everyone the best of luck, we all deserve to be happy and loved with or without our cancer.
Whenever someone brought up the topic of dating after cancer in my young adult support group, I admit that I only half listened. “I’m not shy about sharing my cancer experience.” Here I am now, older, wiser and a little bit lost.