I still remember the moment when my psychologist pointed out that my mental response to failure is the same as my mental response to success.
I was 18, sitting on a well-worn and comfortable chair, and it was only the beginning of our third session, but honestly, I can’t remember what else he said.
I always enjoyed trying to bring a smile to her face or cheering her up.
Rarely would her moods bring me down but I like the challenge.
Now the way I interpret this list is that BPD is basically a large umbrella with all these issues underneath it. As a result, most people generalize Borderlines to be one and the same. Your girlfriend has her own unique experiences as well. Further more, as someone who was a Borderline/codependent man, I know on a personal level what is required to recover and date these types of people successfully (which is why I believe my website has gained a lot of popularity).
If you’re new to this, you will think your girlfriend is crazy. Most guys make the mistake of thinking that they can help her, that you understand her and so on. I believe that it’s important to forget about BPD and focus on what’s in front of you in that moment.
During a typical nighttime trawl through social media one evening, I discovered an amazing article that put me into a similar thrall as my initial revelation in this article had.
She's been through some terrible times growing up and seems to cherish the moments and days, is easy to please, does not ask for much, uneducated but anything but unintelligent, and she's very, to me, overly optimistic.
My last long term could be somewhat moody and would at times pout but I loved it.
Sometimes I thought it had something to do with the fact that if I didn’t show I was willing to put in 120 percent, I wasn’t willing to put any work in at all, according to society.
Unfortunately, as many of us with BPD know, simply knowing something is hardly enough to beat it.
However, they can also shift suddenly to feeling smothered and fearful of intimacy, which leads them to withdraw from relationships.